Wedding Related Q and A

When you ask: “What is the fastest way to plan a wedding” I don’t believe that you ask: “What is the fastest way to get married”. Therefore, I will skip getting married at the justice of the peace or courthouse which can be done as soon as the license you apply for is in force. In many stated the waiting period is 3 days.

To be realistic, long engagements are not necessary. You can plan and have a wedding within a short time. The first thing you need to do is decide on the style of wedding you want, who will conduct the ceremony and where it should take place.

Secure a date when an officiant is available. (Even next weekend). Choose a location where you do not depend on availability. If you want to have your wedding at a hall, for example, you may need to wait for an openning.

My grand daughter had a fantastic mid-morning GARDEN WEDDING. The ceremony and the reception took place at the same location. She did rent a tent, tables and chairs etc. that were delivered and set up the day before.

The guests took pictures and as requested emailed them to the newlyweds.

The flowers for the bridal bouquet were from a local florist but the rest were from the garden. The reception food was mostly finger food, fruit, meat and cheese platters, Soft drinks, water beer and wines from Costco, as well as sandwiches from Subway and pizza from a local Pizzeria.

The music was played right out of the computer and transmitted by rented speakers.

You do not need a lot of time to arrange such a fun wedding. The guests had a great time.

The only aspect that may take time is sending the invitations and waiting for replies. But in today’s environment even here you have options. You can email each of the invitees personally at his/her email address. Provide the information and ask everyone to reply to the email with how many people will attend.

Contributed by Nily Glaser author of the Wedding Planning Guide, book.

Generally, it is not wrong to dress up well for weddings. The wedding ceremony is a solemn occasion and should be respected. Therefore, you should wear appropriate attire that fits the occasion. However, there are exceptions such as some outdoor garden, beach, barbecue, etc. Especially if the invitation states CASUAL DRESS. Otherwise, dress nicely but choose the right shoes. You will be uncomfortable wearing high hills to a wedding on the beach, for example.

If I am not mistaken, you actually want to know how to assure that your wedding gown will be not only clean, but preserved as a family heirloom. This is why you need to entrust your gown’s to a wedding dress cleaning service that specializes in gown cleaning and restoration.

The following should explain what a wedding dress cleaning and preservation service is, and why it is recommended.

You have thought about it since you were a little girl. You may even have dressed as a bride when playing dress-up. You pictured yourself and dreamed about being swept by your prince charming. As soon as you actually became ready to wear a wedding gown, you did research or fell in love with that, just right gown when you saw it in a picture. Now it is yours! and you want it to be an heirloom gown to pass on to the coming generations. So, how do you care for it before and after the wedding?

The following questions and answers should help.

How do I care for my wedding gown before the wedding?

Make sure that your gown is kept in a cool dry closet, away from impurities and smoke. If your gown is covered with plastic, remove it immediately and cover your it with a clean white sheet. While waiting for your wedding, the gown needs to breathe which it can not do while covered with plastic. If you need to transport your gown to the wedding site, keep it covered by the a sheet.

Do not just take it to any “Cleaners” in your neighborhood. Make sure the cleaner you trust your gown to will not only clean, but preserve it.

Case in point; After my wedding, my mother took the gown I borrowed from my sister in law to a “cleaner service” in our neighborhood. When she got it back, it looks fabulous! I returned the gown and my sister in law kept it in the “special” box. My niece wanted to wear it for her wedding. Lo and behold, when the gown was taken out of the box, it was a total disaster. Some parts of the gown were yellow and others such as the underarms were gray.

Since I was the last one to wear the gown, I felt responsible and paid for the gown my niece chose. It was a very expensive lesson!

The gown you wear at your wedding may have been that worn by your, or your husband’s mother, grandmother or another relative. Or, you purchased your own gown after a lot of thought, considerations and expense. Either way, you surely would like to preserve it as a family heirloom to hand down to your own daughter or future daughter in-law. You must take great care about choosing the right stain removal professional. If not cared for, your wedding gown may discolor and the fabric weaken as years go by. Invisible stains such as white wine, perspiration, sugar, salt, acid etc… must be removed permanently so they do not settled in the material. You must also take great care to store your gown properly.

Treat your gown with the true preservation process as soon as possible after the wedding, before visible and invisible stains can set.

Cleaning any garment including a wedding gown, means that through a cleaning process the garment appears absolutely clean as all visible stains have been removed. yet, the garment may have invisible stains caused by sweat, white wine, sugar, salt, acidity etc… When you pick up your gown it looks clean and fresh. Will it look just as good five or ten years later? Or, will you discover instead that it has started to discolor, and looks even worse with the passing of time? Preserving any garment, including a wedding gown, is cleaning it to such a degree that even the smallest invisible stain has been totally and permanently removed. If done correctly, five and even ten or more years down the line, your gown will look just as lovely as it did when you first wore it. Preservation will safeguard your gown for years to come, so that your gown will not discolor and you’ll not find yellow and gray stains, nor will you find the material weakening. You may consider the fact that ALL first ladies gowns you can see in the museum have been cleaned by the preservation method. They may not have been fit for display otherwise.

Stains cause damage to any fabric over time. It is advisable to have your dress cleaned and preserved as soon after the wedding as is practical. Until you take your gown to be cleaned and preserved, keep it in a dark, dry, cool place, stored in a clean white sheet. Do not store your gown in plastic – such as a garment bag. Plastic will emit gases that will yellow the fabric. Your best bet is to hang it in a closet in your room.

Actually you have two options. You may choose a local service or you may opt for a wedding gown preservation company that may not be anywhere in your geographical location.

Environmental variants can cause permanent damage to fabric and non-woven dress components such as beads, lace, metal closures, embellishments and trimmings. So, whether your gown lies in a preservation box or hangs in a preservation bag, do not store it in the attic or basement. Protect your gown! Store it in the living area of your home that is controlled for safe and comfortable temperatures and humidity and is not exposed to excessive light, dust and other hazards. If your gown was packed in a “sealed box, be careful when you first “break the seal” to view your gown. Actually, the “seal” on the box your gown was delivered in, has no function in the preservation of the gown, and “breaking” it does not adversely affect your gown and should have no bearing on your warranty. Open the box slowly. If you open a sealed box all at once, the rush of air into the box will rapidly deoxygenate the chamber and may cause the fabric to deteriorate. Inspect your gown regularly about every 18 months to 2 years to assure it indeed is preserved. in fact, it is a good idea to “air” it at that time and let the fabric breath for about 30 minutes. Before you handle your gown wash your hands thoroughly with soap and warm water to remove any oils, salts and sweat that can damage delicate fabrics. Museum professionals often wear plain white cotton gloves so as not to damage the fabric. You should consider doing so as well.

Professional textile curators always recommend that a fabric be allowed to “breathe”. In fact, neither the First Ladies’ Gowns nor presidential upholstered furniture nor even “Old Glory” (the “Star Spangled Banner” flag from 1814) are in air-tight or sealed rooms. Yet, they are beautifully preserved. Most preservation companies will store your wedding gown in a card board box. Some companies place your gown in plastic or shrink wrap. This should be unacceptable to you. On the other hand, responsible preservationists such as Wedding Gown Preservation Co. use treated acid-free or PH balanced breathable cardboard and tissue paper for your gown. If not in a breathable environment, even acid-free or PH balanced cardboard boxes can re-acidify over time, often in three to five years. This is why costume conservators and museum curators recommend checking and if necessary replacing these boxes periodically to ensure the proper long-term archival preservation of valuable textiles such as wedding gowns. Additionally you must handle your cardboard storage boxes with care.

Successful long-term preservation of your wedding gown depends on you. Where and how you keep the gown will have an effect on its condition. Store the box flat, with top side facing up. When you move the box, carry it as level as possible, so your gown does not shift. Protect your gown from extreme temperature and humidity, which may cause the material to deteriorate. All fibers even the cleanest, degrade under high temperatures, and many may discolor permanently. According to experts, curators and The Smithsonian Institution in Washington, DC., a sealed cardboard container that is not a breather, absorbs and can trap moisture that may promote the growth of mold or mildew within the storage chamber. This will stain and weaken the fibers of your gown as it affects even clean fabrics. Check the box for mold and mildew every few years, especially if you live by the beach or otherwise a high humidity area, as they may harm your gown. Therefore, it is not wise to store your gown in an attic or a cellar. Choose a cool dry place, without much traffic, and away from direct sunlight, to store your gown.

Absolutely and it is not difficult if you have a sewing machine or know someone who does. All you need is a clean white or light blue sheet. Choose a size that will provide your gown enough room to hang freely. Fold the sheet in half and sew the “open side. Sew the top leaving an opening for the hanging part of a clothes hanger. If you can find one, hang your gown on a padded hanger.

Hang your gown on soft preferable padded hangers, never on metal hangers, in the Preservation Bag in a closet within your living quarters. Inspecting your gown, showing it off and airing it as mentioned above.

Contributed by Nily Glaser of the A-wedding Day free online magazine, Author of the FREE downloadable, printable wedding planning guide, book.

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To avoid having your groomsman dressed better than you on your wedding day. You have 2 options:

1. Have the best man and the groomsmen rent tuxedos or suits at the same time and from the same place as you do. Many attire rental shops will supply the groom’s tuxedo or suit for free if your party rents a minimum number.
2. If the groomsmen wear their own set a dress code. For example: A Dark Blue suit, White shirt, Solid Light Blue tie etc.

Also, take care of your grooming. Be sure to be a very well groomed groom (pun intended).

But most importantly, you are marrying the love of your life. Celebrate this very special occasion and don’t worry about anything other than your happiness and joy.

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2 up Invitations/Photo Cards – card lies horizontally

Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In PAGE SETUP, click on the MARGINS tab. Set the top margin to: .3″ Set the bottom margin to: .3″ Set the right margin to: .3″ Set the left margin to: .3 Click OK. Type your text. (To copy your text, highlight text and under EDIT select COPY. Click on your document at 4.5″ and under EDIT select PASTE). Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Once you are satisfied with your layout, print on your 2 up invitation.

2-up Invitation – card lies vertically

Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In PAGE SETUP, click on the PAPER SIZE tab. Under ORIENTATION, click on LANDSCAPE. Click on the MARGINS tab. Set the top margin to: .3″ Set the bottom margin to: .3″ Set the right margin to: .3″ Set the left margin to: .3″
NOTE: If the printing area of the 2up invitation has a border, be sure to include that in your above margin measurements. Click OK. Under FORMAT, click on COLUMNS. Under PRESETS click on TWO columns. Click OK. Type your text in the first column, return down until you are at the top of the next column. Copy your text from your first column into the next column. (To copy your text, highlight selected text and under EDIT select COPY. Click your next column and under EDIT select PASTE). Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Once you are satisfied with your layout, print on your 2 up invitation.

3up Photo Cards/Gift Certificates

Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In PAGE SETUP, click on the MARGINS tab. Set the top margin to: .3″ Set the bottom margin to: .3″ Set the right margin to: .3″ Set the left margin to: .3″
NOTE: If the printing area of the 3up has a border you will need to measure that and include that in your above margin measurements. Click OK. Type your text. Enter down until you are at about 3.5″ on your ruler. Copy your text from your first card into the next. (To copy your text, highlight text and under EDIT select COPY. Click on your document at 3.5″ and under EDIT select PASTE). Enter down until you are at about 7.25″ Repeat set number 11. Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Once you are satisfied with your layout, print on your 3 up Photo Paper/Gift Certificate.

Bulletins / 1-up Invitations

Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In the PAGE SETUP, click on the MARGINS tab. Set the top margin to: .3″ Set the bottom margin to: .3″ Set the right margin to: .3″ Set the left margin to: 5.8″ Click on the PAPER SIZE tab. Under ORIENTATION click on LANDSCAPE. Click OK. Type in your text. Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. When you are satisfied with your layout, print on your bulletin /

1-up Invitation.5.5 x 7.75 Flat Card / Invitation

Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In PAGE SETUP, click on the MARGINS tab. Place your flat card that you are going to print on, on top of and in the upper left hand corner of an 8.5″ x 11″ piece of paper. This will be used as a guide for measuring purposes for your margins. With a ruler measure from the bottom edge of the 8.5″ x 11″ piece of paper to the bottom of your printing area on the flat card. This would be your BOTTOM measurement. With a ruler measure from the right edge of the 8.5″ x 11″ piece of paper to the right side of your printing area on the flat card. This would be your RIGHT margin. The TOP and LEFT margin will be 0″ or the width of your border.
NOTE: If the design has a border be sure to include that in your bottom and right margin measurement.
NOTE: If you set your margin at 0″ a screen might pop up in regards to the margins being set outside the area of the page. If this happens, click on ignore.
NOTE: In PAGE SETUP, a picture of what your setup will look like is in the PREVIEW window. Click OK. Type in your text. Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Once you are satisfied with your layout, print on your flat card/invitation.

Fold-over Card

Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In PAGE SETUP, click on the MARGINS tab. Place your fold-over card that you are going to print on, on top of and in the upper left hand corner of an 8.5″ x 11″ piece of paper. With a ruler measure from the edge of the 8.5″ x 11″ piece of paper to the bottom of your printing area on the fold-over card. This would be your BOTTOM measurement. With a ruler measure from the edge of the 8.5″ x 11″ piece of paper to the right side of your printing area on the fold-over card. This would be your RIGHT margin. The TOP and LEFT your margin will be 0″ or or the width of your border.
NOTE: If the design has a border be sure to include that in your bottom and right margin measurement.
NOTE: If you set your margin at 0″ a screen might pop up in regards to the margins being set outside the area of the page, if this happens, click on ignore.
NOTE: In PAGE SETUP, in the PREVIEW window there is a picture of what your setup will look like. Click OK. Type in your text. Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Once you are satisfied with your layout, print on your fold-over card.

Note Cards

Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In page setup, click on the MARGINS tab. Set the top margin to: 4.25″ Set the bottom margin to: .3″ Set the right margin to: .3″ Set the left margin to: .3″
NOTE: If the printing area of the note card has a border you will need to measure that and include it in your above margin measurements. Example: If the note card has a .5″ border, then you would need to add .5″ to each (top, bottom, left and right) margin setting. Also in PAGE SETUP, click on the PAPER SIZE tab. Under ORIENTATION, click on LANDSCAPE. Click on OK. Under FORMAT, click on COLUMNS. Under PRESETS, click on TWO columns. Still under PRESETS, under WIDTH AND SPACING,
Format the SPACING to .6″. Measure the border width on your note card and multiply the width by two (2). Add this number to .6″. EXAMPLE: If the border width is .5″ then .5″ x 2 + 6 = 1.6″. 1.6″ is then what the SPACING should be set at, for this example. Click OK. Type in your text. Copy and paste your text directly below the original text you typed. With the ENTER KEY, push the second set of text down until it is in exactly the same location in the second column, as it is in the first column. (Because typestyles and sizes vary, you may need to adjust the copy vertically by hitting the ENTER KEY.) Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Once you are satisfied with your layout, print on your note card. NOTE: You may have to adjust margins for asymmetrically designed cards.

Alternate printer instructions Printing of Great Papers! Planner Pages on a laser printer may require you to alter your procedures slightly because of variations in paper and two-sided printing format.

Please consult your printer’s manual and instructions. Procedure variations may include some or all of those listed below:Inserting the paper opposite side up from the procedure described above.Printing of odd numbered pages by first selecting Odd in the Print window under Copies and under Number of Pages.You may need to reverse the order of the stack of paper before reinserting it to print the even side.Printing of even numbered pages by selecting Even in the Print window under Copies and under Number of Pages.We recommend using blank paper while determining your printer’s format for two-sided printing.Use the same method and settings for printing Contacts, Personal Address Book, Tasks and Notes. You can also use other personal management software programs with Great Papers! Planner Pages.
* If your template doesn’t fit on one page, make sure your margins are set correctly. Once you are satisfied with layout, print on your post card. Tri-fold Invitations – Horizontal Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In the PAGE SETUP, click on the MARGINS tab. Set right margin to: 3.75″Set top & bottom margin to: .25″ Click the PAPER SIZE tab. Under ORIENTATION click on LANDSCAPE Click OK. Once you have finished typing your text, return down until you are at 4.5″ on your side margin. (To copy your text, highlight selected text and under EDIT select COPY. Click your next column and under EDIT select PASTE). Paste the text at the 4.5″ point. Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Once you are satisfied with your layout, you are ready to print on the tri-fold invitation.

Tri-fold Invitations – Vertical

Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In the PAGE SETUP, click on the MARGINS tab Set top margin to: 2.5″ Set bottom margin to: 3.75″ Set left & right margin to: .25″ Click OK. A screen might pop up in regard to the margins being set outside the area of the page. If this happens, click on ignore. Next you will need to setup two columns to enter your text. To set up the columns click on FORMAT, then COLUMNS. In COLUMNS, under PRESETS click on 2 COLUMNS. Under the WIDTH & SPACING set column widths to 3.75″ & set spacing to .5″ Type your text in column 1. Once you are finished typing your text, return down until you reach the top of the 2nd column. Copy the text in the 1st column. Paste the text in the 2nd column. Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Once you are satisfied with your layout, you are ready to print on the Tri-fold brochure.

Gate Fold Invitation Insert – Horizontal

Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In PAGE SETUP, click on the MARGINS tab. Set the top margin to: .321″ Set the bottom margin to: 6.25″ Set the left margin to: .321″ Set the right margin to: 1.812″
Note: In PAGE SETUP, a preview of what your setup will be is in the PREVIEW window. Click OK. Type in your text. Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Once you are satisfied with your layout, print on your Gate Fold Insert.

Gate Fold Invitation Insert – Vertical

Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In PAGE SETUP, click on the MARGINS tab. Set the top margin to: .25″ Set the bottom margin to: 4.25″ Set the right margin to: 3.75″
Note: In PAGE SETUP, a preview of what your setup will be is in the PREVIEW window. Click OK. Type in your text. Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Once you are satisfied with your layout, print on your Gate Fold Insert.

4.875 x 7 Note Card

Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In PAGE SETUP, click on the MARGINS tab. Set the top margin to: 5.0″ Set the bottom margin to: 4.25″ Set the left margin to: .321″ Set the right margin to: 4.0″
Note: In PAGE SETUP, a picture of what your setup will look like is in the PREVIEW window. Click OK. Type in your text. Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Once you are satisfied with your layout, print on your note card.

4.875 x 7 Note Card – Others

Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In PAGE SETUP, click on the MARGINS tab. Set the top margin to: 4.0″ Set the bottom margin to: 4.5″ Set the left margin to: .5″ Set the right margin to: 4.125″ Note: In PAGE SETUP, a picture of what your setup will look like is in the PREVIEW window. Click OK. Type in your text. Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Once you are satisfied with your layout, print on your note card.

5.375×10.75 Printable Insert Card

Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In PAGE SETUP, click on the MARGINS tab. Set the top margin to: 5.75” Set the bottom margin to: .25” Set the left margin to: .25” Set the right margin to: 3.25”
Note: In PAGE SETUP, a picture of what your setup will look like is in the PREVIEW window. Click OK. Type in your text. Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Some adjustments might need to be made depending on the design you have purchased, font size, & the text you have entered Once you are satisfied with your layout, print on your 5.5×11 printable Insert Card. 2-up Postcards / Save the Date Cards (use these instructions if you have a custom size in your page setup screen, paper tab section – scroll down if you do not). Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In PAGE SETUP, click on the PAPER tab. Under PAPER SIZE, click on CUSTOM Set the WIDTH to: 5.5″ Set the HEIGHT to: 8.5″ Click on MARGINS tab, To determine the size of your margins:
TOP MARGIN: measure from the top of the postcard to just below the design element
BOTTOM MARGIN: set your margin to at least 0.25”
LEFT MARGIN:set your margin to at least 0.25”
RIGHT MARGIN: set your margin to at least 0.25” Click OK. Type your text. Enter down until you are at about ľ of the way down on the paper, if the design has a top border; be sure to account for that on the bottom postcard. Copy your text from the top card onto the bottom card. (To copy and paste your text, highlight text and under EDIT select COPY. Under EDIT select PASTE). Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Once you are satisfied with your layout, print on your 2-up Postcard / Save the Date Card.

2-up Postcards / Save the Date Cards

(use these instructions if you do not have a custom size in your page setup screen, paper tab section) Click on FILE, then PAGE SETUP. In PAGE SETUP, click on the PAPER tab. Under PAPER SIZE, click on LETTER Click on MARGINS tab Under ORIENTATION, click on LANDSCAPE. To determine the size of your margins for your print area, place your 2-up postcard flush up against the left side of a landscape (horizontal) 8.5”x11” piece of paper. With a ruler, measure the distance between the edge of the 8.5”x11” piece of paper and your print area on your 2-up post card.
TOP MARGIN: measure from the top of the 8.5”x11” paper to just below the design element
BOTTOM MARGIN: set your margin to at least 0.25”
LEFT MARGIN:set your margin to at least 0.25”
RIGHT MARGIN: set your margin to 5.5” plus the measurement of your LEFT MARGIN. Click OK. Type your text. Enter down until you are at about ľ of the way down on the paper, if the design has a top border; be sure to account for that on the bottom py your text from the top card onto the bottom card. (To copy and paste your text, highlight text and under EDIT select COPY. Under EDIT select PASTE). Test print on a blank sheet of paper and compare with design product to make sure that text lines up correctly. Make any adjustments to text at this time. Once you are satisfied with your layout, print on your 2-up Postcard / Save the Date Card. Copyright © Masterpiece Studios. All rights reserved. Copyright https ://A-Weddingday.com

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ANSWER:

Step one:

Create the wedding list naming the guests YOU want at your wedding.

Step two:

You should run your wedding invitation list by parents and siblings of both bride and groom before you finalize it for a few reasons:

1. You do not want to offend family members (uncles, aunts, cousins etc.) by “forgetting” to invite them. (It happened to me. I did not even know that my nephew, I am his father’s only sibling, got married until I read it on Facebook. I was very very hurt.) Please avoid such hurts! Your wedding is a happy occasion that should be shared with family.
2. You may want to know if there are any guests who should not be seated together for whatever reason.

Very often, the parents want to include a few close friends and coworkers.

Siblings may have suggestions too.

But, be sure to stay within your budget in terms of the number of guests you can afford to host.

If your list is larger than you budgeted for, ask your parents and or siblings to help pay for the over budget expenses.

ANSWER:

Unless you invite guests to your wedding by a mailed timely printed invitation, you need to invite last minute guests with a direct, personal contact.

If you can possibly meet, let’s say for coffee or by visiting them, this is the best way. However, a phone call is another way to reach them.

DO NOT invite by Email! If I were to receive an email invitation, I would consider it as a “by the way” or an “after thought” invitation. My impression of such an invitation would be That I was not considered as a guest to start with and I am just a fill in for someone who cannot attend. I would not go. In fact a may not even reply to such an invitation.

If you invite by direct contact you can have the last minute invitees assured that you want them as your wedding guests. You may need to be ready in case they wonder and ask why you waited so long before inviting them. However, do not under any circumstances mention that originally space was limited or that you needed to wait and see if there will be room for them. No one wants to be considered a “second class citizen, or not quite as important as others as you phrased it: (since they are obviously “B-list”).

You don’t want people to be insulted! So, if you cannot assure them that their presence is important to you, you are better off NOT inviting them.

Contributed by Nily Glaser of the A-wedding Day FREE online Magazine

ANSWER:

Once you have set the date you should send out ‘Save the Date’ cards addressed to would be guests, so that they will mark their calendars way in advance.

About 6 -8 weeks before the wedding send out the wedding invitations and pre-addressed stamped reply cards in the same envelope .

I have heard of invitations by TEXT and EMAIL. This is tacky! It is most certainly not the proper etiquette for inviting guests to a wedding.

Contributed by Nily Glaser of A-wedding Day , author of the currently FREE A-wedding Day Wedding planning Guide Book. Yes! it is free so you have nothing to lose. Go ahead download and print the planner.

Since Biblical days as far as Eliezer asking Rebecca’s father to agree to her marrying Isaac, the groom (or his representative, relative, friend or a Match Maker) asked the father of the bride for her hand in marriage. In other word the bride was given to the groom. Additionally, tradition called for the bride’s family to put on the wedding, complete with planning and paying for it. They were also the ones sending out the invitations, So since they were the invitees they did so by wording it Mr. _____ and Mrs. ___ (inviting words)

to the marriage of their daughter _____________

to Groom’s name _______________

Son of______________________________________________

Today, many but not all brides and grooms, rather than the parents, plan, pay and invite their guests to their wedding and word their invitations as they see fit. Yet many carry the tradition of the bride’s name first,

Contributed by Nily Glaser, author of the A-wedding Day Wedding Planning Guide book.

The guide book is currently FREE. Get your copy! (http://https:www.a-weddingday.com)

It is NOT okay to write a gift option on your wedding invitations unless is a donation (Instead of gift you may wish to donate to: name of organization). However, if you have one or more Bridal Registry(ies) insert a separate piece of paper that mentions each registry and its website with instructions how to get to your account. The registries will let your guests know what you want, as well as what is still available.

Contributed by Nily Glaser of A-wedding Day Magazine

Send the RSVP for a wedding about 8 weeks before the wedding with a return date on or before about 3–4 weeks before the wedding. If you send the RSVPs for th…

Send the RSVP for a wedding about 8 weeks before the wedding with a return date on or before about 3–4 weeks before the wedding. If you send the RSVPs for the wedding earlier, there is a chance that invitees will misplace, or forget about them in will not reply.

Over the years, parents have made many friends and acquaintances. They proudly want to share their happiness with everyone.

Sad to say that since they are not paying for the wedding, they do not consider BUDGET.

The best way for you to approach them is to be open and honest with them. Let them know your cost per guest, thus how many guests you can afford to invite on your wedding budget.

Give them the options to choose to either invite only (Number of) guests, or pay for their own guests.

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Just because s/he is your X, does not mean that his/her relationship with the rest of the family has changed. If they are still friendly, it is absolutely right for a family to invite your ex to a family wedding. Why do you think that they need to notify you or explain their decision to you?

Planning and getting ready for a wedding is most time consuming. The family is fully engage in the preparations as they are in large and small details. They probably did not even think about your personal preferences to be notified. Did you inquire to find out if your ex was invited? If the wedding is in the future, you may wish to contact the hosts and ask not to be seated at the same table with your X. Also, if the wedding did not take place yet, someone must have informed you that your X was invited.

Either way, it is your option to decline or attend the wedding.

If for some reason you did not reply to an RSVP but you intend to be at a wedding rehearsal dinner, notify the hosts.

Just call them to let them know that you will be there.

Otherwise, the answer depends on the arrangements the hosts made regarding the event.

If it is catered, the caterer uses a guest count and not having responded, you will not be counted which may result in you not getting to eat unless someone offers you his/her meal.

If the wedding rehearsal dinner is in a restaurant I believe that most hosts will pick up the tab for your meal, unless every guest pays their own way. (Going Dutch is done quite often when there is a budget issue.)

If the wedding rehearsal dinner is a buffet, there should be no issue. There will be more than enough food to accommodate an additional guest.

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I will not invite friends to my wedding on Facebook because:

Not everyone is signed upon Facebook.

Many people who are signed up don’t visit Facebook often enough.

Watch out!!! If you place your invitation on Facebook, you may find yourself with replies from people you did not intend to invite.

Most importantly, receiving a personal invitation with a reply card, indicates to the recipient that you care about them and want them at your wedding. This good feeling will diminish if you invite them via Facebook.

If I were you, I would not do it,

A wedding related gift basket, is a welcome basket with goodies for your out of town guests. It can include a map of the area with places to visit, fruit, nuts, soft drinks etc. and, it does not have to be a basket. You can place all these items in a paper gift bag. Leave a gift “Basket” in the hotel room of every out of town guest. Acknowledge and thank them for coming from afar to celebrate with you.

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The Wedding Planning guide is a book that includes information, tips, ideas, worksheets with questions to ask each vendor you interview and checklists, This wedding planner is suggested because:

• It is FREE to download and print
• It cover every aspect of your wedding
• It has an entire chapter about guests
• You will stay stress free planning your wedding because the book makes it easy and fun
• You don’t need to print the entire book you can print only the parts of it that are relevant to your wedding.

You may be interested in what brides and grooms say about the A-wedding Day Wedding Planning Guide:

Take the following review as an example.

“Right after we got engaged, I bought my fiancé every wedding planning book I could find at Barnes and Noble. She got so frustrated and stressed that I became stressed too because we were planning the wedding together.

Lo and behold, my co-worker recommended that I get the planner organizer published by Gan Publishing. I did.

We found it to be easy to follow and very complete, it covered everything. This book had all the information as the other planners and a lot more. It had things we would have never thought about.

I think and my fiancé agrees that the specific questions for each vendor are super. I am sure that we would not have thought about asking many of them.

Having all of our wedding planning information and paperwork in a personalized binder makes it a special keepsake too.

Thanks to this guide, we had a perfect wedding. We highly recommend it to all newly engaged couples.

Mark and Linda” Printed here with permission.

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Usually three tiers will serve 50 to 100 guests. If you want to keep the top tier, you will need four tiers. If you are on a budget, you may want the have a small wedding cake and save money as wedding cakes are quite expensive. The guests’ cake servings can be cut out of plain but frosted sheet cakes. The guests will not know the difference. You will probably need 3–4 but they will cost a fraction of the cost of a wedding cake.

Sample of a small cake.

Sample of a small cake

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Contact at least 3 hotels close to the wedding site and ask if they offer block reservations. Most hotel do, though some require a minimum number of reserved rooms.

TIP: Don’t tell the hotel that the reservation is for a wedding. Negotiate first! For some reason “Some wedding vendors charge more for a wedding than they do for other events. So, unless they ask, don’t say anything about a wedding.

Let the hotel manager know that you need (Number of rooms) and are “shopping for the best price”. Hotels like to have guests! If they compete with other hotels they will make some offers. Compare the offers and before you leave, ask them if they add a FREE room for the bride and groom as part of the package. Most hotels do, if you ask.

Choose the offer that attracts you most.

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Nily Glaser, is the author of the now FREE Wedding Planning Guide, Book.

You can get a FREE downloadable and printable Wedding Planning Guide. To download it or the parts of it that are relevant to your planning, CLICK HERE.

The Wedding Planning guide is a book that includes information, tips, ideas, worksheets with questions to ask each vendor you interview and checklists, This wedding planner is suggested because:

It is FREE to download and print
It cover every aspect of your wedding
It has an entire chapter about guests
You will stay stress free planning your wedding because the book makes it easy and fun
You don’t need to print the entire book you can print only the parts of it that are relevant to your wedding.
You may be interested in what brides and grooms say about the A-wedding Day Wedding Planning Guide:

Take the following review as an example.

“Right after we got engaged, I bought my fiancé every wedding planning book I could find at Barnes and Noble. She got so frustrated and stressed that I became stressed too because we were planning the wedding together.

Lo and behold, my co-worker recommended that I get the planner organizer published by Gan Publishing. I did.

We found it to be easy to follow and very complete, it covered everything. This book had all the information as the other planners and a lot more. It had things we would have never thought about.

I think and my fiancé agrees that the specific questions for each vendor are super. I am sure that we would not have thought about asking many of them.

Having all of our wedding planning information and paperwork in a personalized binder makes it a special keepsake too.

Thanks to this guide, we had a perfect wedding. We highly recommend it to all newly engaged couples.

Mark and Linda” Printed here with permission.

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To download it now, CLICK HERE

I don’t know about 1000 dollars but my grand daughter’s wedding cost her under 2000 dollars.

It was held on a summer day in the late morning in a garden. So, the invitations indicated casual dress. There were no bridesmaids or groomsmen. The bridal bouquet was made of flowers from the garden. The reception food was a buffet that included: finger food, fruits and vegetables, salads, meat and cheese trays, bread and roles, sweets, soft drinks, champagne and beer all purchased at Costco. Sandwiches from Sub Way. Each 12 inch sandwich was cut to make 3 portions.

Music was amplified from her computer and the guests were asked to take pictures and email them to the newly weds.

It was a beautiful wedding and everyone had a great time, even the guests’ kids.

Oh, yes! Their wedding album includes wonderful photos taken with love by the guests.

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Before you even start planning your wedding, you must set your budget. A realistic budget. You don’t want to start your married life in debt.

Once your budget is ready, you can plan your wedding. If you are looking for stress less wedding planning, down load and print the now FREE Wedding Planning Guide Book. It contains information, tips, ideas, worksheets including questions to ask each of the wedding vendors you interview, and checklist to check what tasks still need to be done and affirm tasks that were completed.

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I would not avoid a huge wedding because a small or a huge wedding should not bring stress. A huge wedding will only be stressing is if it is a burden on your budget.

The number of guests attending should have no impact on your wedding joyful celebration. However make sure that you stay within your budget because you do not want to start your married life in debt.

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The stresses in planning our wedding was not having a guide to tell us what we needed to do, how and when.

However this should not stress you because you can not only get a fully detailed wedding planning book for FREE, but have information, tips, ideas, worksheets that include questions to ask vendors when you interview them and checklists.

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The wedding ring is a symbol of love and commitment. The ring is round with no beginning and no end. It represents the couple’s eternal love, devotion, wholeness and as said in the vow “Till death do us part” Eternity.

When a couple exchanges rings at the wedding, they promise each other to love and remain faithful to one another throughout all of time.

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Throughout history, going back to Bible times, the bride’s family was the determining party to marriage.

Eliezer needed to get to get her father’s permission for Rebecca to marry Isaac.

Laban had Jacob work for him for 7 years before he agreed to Jacob marriage to Leah and 7 additional years before Jacob could marry Rachel.

Until very recently, when many brides and grooms plan their own weddings, it was the bride’s family that was in charge and usually paid for the wedding.

When marriages were pre-arranged through a match maker, it was the bride’s family who hired the match maker.

Now lets look at the most common style of today’s wedding invitations. the wording is as follows:

Bride’s father’s first and last name and Bride’s mother’s first and last name request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter’s her first name to Mr. Groom’s first name, son of Groom’s father’s first and last name and Groom’s mother’s first and last name.

In fact throughout the generations and even in most of today’s marriage ceremonies, the father of the bride is asked to release his daughter to marry the groom and start their own family.

This is the reason for the wedding day to be considered the bride’s day.

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I don’t know what you consider to be an elaborate wedding ceremony.

The wedding ceremony is a solemn moment at which two separate entities become united creating a new family full of love. The setting should be festive but respectful of the occasion. The site should be decorated tastefully with flowers. You can add pew bows, rose petals etc. Appropriate music may play softly before and after the actual ceremony. However, it is the ceremony itself that is the most important and impactful. Your guests are at the ceremony site to witness your union.

You can elaborate the reception site, where the guest will celebrate with you.

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How many witnesses are needed for a civil wedding depends on the state you are in.

In the United States, each state has its own law regarding the number of witnesses required in a Civil Wedding Ceremony.

Please note that in states where the law requires witnesses, they must have a photo I.D. in order to qualify.

Following is the states and their laws, listed Alphabetically:

ALABAMA: Witnesses are not required by Alabama law.ALASKA: law requires the ceremony must be witnessed by at least two (2) adults

ARIZONA: Marriage licenses must be signed by the couple, two (2) adult witnesses at least 18 years old as well as the officiating minister.

ARKANSAS: No witnesses are required.CALIFORNIA: One (1) witness but a 2nd witness may sign the license too.

COLORADO: The law does not require witnesses.CONNECTICUT: The law does not require witnesses.

DELAWARE: The law requires Two (2) witnesses, at least 18 years old.DC: No witnesses are required.

FLORIDA: No witnesses are required.GEORGIA: If the ceremony officiant does not complete the form, two (2) witnesses at least 18 years old are needed in order to obtain the marriage certificate.

HAWAII: No witnesses are required.

IDAHO: No witnesses are required.

ILLINOIS: No witnesses are required.

INDIANA: No witnesses are required.

IOWA: The law requires one (1) adult witness over 18 years old when applying for the marriage license.

KANSAS: The law requires Two (2) witnesses, at least 18 years old.

KENTUCKY: as well as the officiant must sigh the marriage license.

LOUISIANA: The law requires Two (2) witnesses, at least 18 years old.

MAINE: The law requires Two (2) witnesses, at least 18 years old as well as the officiant must sigh the marriage license.

MARYLAND: No witnesses are required.

MASSACHUSETTS: No witnesses are required.

MICHIGAN: The law requires Two (2) witnesses, at least 18 years old.

MINNESOTA: The law requires Two (2) witnesses, at least 16 years old.

MISSISSIPPI: No witnesses are required.

MISSOURI: No witnesses are required.

MONTANA: No witnesses are required.

NEBRASKA: Two (2) adult witnesses are required.NEVADA: One (1) adult witness as well as the officiant.

NEW HAMPSHIRE: No witnesses are required.NEW JERSEY: No witnesses are required.

NEW MEXICO: The law requires Two (2) witnesses, at least 18 years old.

NEW YORK: the law requires One (1) adult witness at least 18-years old..

NORTH CAROLINA: Two (2) adult witnesses are required.

NORTH DAKOTA: Two (2) adult witnesses are required.OHIO: No witnesses are required.

OKLAHOMA: Two (2) adult witnesses are required.OREGON: The law requires Two (2) witnesses, at least 18 years old.

PENNSYLVANIA: Witnesses are not required by law.

RHODE ISLAND: The law requires Two (2) witnesses, at least 18 years old.

SOUTH CAROLINA: No witnesses are required.

SOUTH DAKOTA: the law requires One (1) adult witness.

TENNESSEE: No witnesses are required.

TEXAS: No witnesses are required

.UTAH: The law requires Two (2) witnesses, at least 18 years old.

VERMONT: No witnesses are required by law.VIRGINIA: No witnesses are required

.WASHINGTON STATE: The law requires Two (2) witnesses, at least 18 years old.

WEST VIRGINIA: No witnesses are required.WISCONSIN: Two (2) competent adult witnesses.

WYOMING: Two (2) competent adult witnesses.

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Think about the “Old Days”, when guests attended wedding ceremony and were focuses on the ceremony and what actually took place during that sacred moment, uniting the two people in marriage.

In today’s culture unless specifically requested not to, you will find some guests busy with their electronics (Items that need to be Plugged for recharging). When the marrying couple requests a gadget-free wedding, they want an unplugged wedding ceremony.

In other words, a ceremony in which the guests are asked to put away their cell phones, cameras, etc. so they can concentrate and witness the very important, sacred, life changing moment.

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The wedding ring is a symbol of love and commitment. The ring is round with no beginning and no end. It represents the couple’s eternal love, devotion, wholeness and as said in the vow “Till death do us part” Eternity.

When a couple exchanges rings at the wedding, they promise each other to love and remain faithful to one another throughout all of time.

ANSWER:

A ring by any name is a ring. The symbolism of its roundness is that it has no beginning and no end which means forever. As long as it is made of strong material that will not deteriorate, it is a perfect ring.

Both my granddaughter and her husband work in a lab. So they decided against precious metal rings, so as not to harm them with chemicals they use. I don’t know what their rings are made of but they are neither gold, silver or platinum.

So, go ahead! Wishbone rings are perfect wedding bands.

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You can have a vegan and eco-friendly wedding that is still luxurious and absolutely fun. Following is a comprehensive list of Hors d’oeuvres, Salads and Entrees. They are mostly International. The best way is to serve them is as a Fun Buffet. This serving style is fun because your guests can fill their plates with only the foods that they recognize or experiment with unfamiliar foods. In order for your guest to be able to choose, clearly label each dish.

For an eco-friendly atmosphere, make sure that whatever disposable items you use are 100% biodegradable.

To make it really fun, have all the dishes of certain geographical areas grouped together. have a Mexican section, a Mediterranean section that will include: Greek, Italian and Middle Eastern recipes, Asian section that will include: Chinese and Japanese recipes, Mexican Section, European Section and an American Section.

I did not include the actual recipes since they are available on the Internet. The BuffetMediterranean-style Hors d’oeuvres, Salads and Entrees

• Pizza
• Eggplant Parmesan
• Hot Pasta
• Cold Pasta salads
• Caesar Salad
• Greek Salad
• Cucumber tomato scallion salad in salted olive oil
• Couscous, chickpea, and sun-dried fruit salad
• Tabouli salad
• Three-bean salad
• Spinach, olives and feta cheese salad
• Mushroom
• Ragout Truffle
• Risotto
• Zucchini Noodles with marinara sauce like spaghetti
• Bruschette
• Ratatouille
• Mediterranean Hummus Dip
• Baba Ganoush
• Potato Gnocchi
• Rice or Risotto
• Ratatouille
• Spanakopita, Greek Veggie Phyllo Tart
• Vegetarian Stuffed Shells
• Roasted Zucchini
• Lasagna
• Spiced Chickpeas and Greens
• Frittata
• Broccoli Quiche
• Vegetarian Tabbouleh
• Caramelized onions and mushrooms in a puff pastry
• brochettes
• Tomato bruschetta brushed with olive oil
• Stuffed grape leaves
• Stuffed mushrooms
• Falafel with tahini sauce
• Baba Ganoush with pita bread
• Couscous stuffed portabello mushrooms
• Pasta primavera
• Mushroom phyllo roulade
• vegetable ravioli
• Roasted bell peppers stuffed with bulgur, herbs,caramelized onions and mushrooms in a puff pastry
• Pickled vegetables

Asian-style Hors d’oeuvres, Salads, and Entrees

• Spring Rolls
• Stir Fry
• Pad Thai
• Veggie Sushi
• Vegetable Samosas
• Spring Rolls with soy-ginger dipping sauce
• Avocado and cucumber sushi with pickled ginger and wasabi
• Tempura vegetables and dipping sauce or salad dressing
• Garlic Mashed potatoes
• Herb roasted vegetables
• Vegetable skewers with garlic and rosemary

American-style Hors d’oeuvres, Salads, and Entrees

• Salads toppings and dressings
• Mac and Cheese
• Grilled Cheese sandwiches
• Roasted Cauliflower
• Veggie Burgers
• Baked Potato Bar with various toppings
• Twice-baked red and white potatoes
• French Fries
• Stuffed Mushrooms
• Deviled Eggs
• Herb-Crusted Cauliflower Steaks
• Corn on the cob

European-style Hors d’oeuvres, Salads and Entrees

• :Pierogies
• Blintzes
• Potato Knishes
• Potato Strudel
• Roasted Vegetable Strudel
• Grilled Portabella Napoleon
• Vegan Stuffed Peppers
• Potato Knishes
• Mushroom Wellington
• Stuffed Mushrooms
• Mini spinach quiches

Mexican-style Hors d’oeuvres,Salads and Entrees:

• Tacos
• Stuffed Chile Rellano
• Mushroom and Leek Empanadas
• Guacamole with tortilla chips
• Vegetarian Burritos
• Nachos
• Vegetarian Tamale Pie
• Taquitos
• Enchiladas
• Quesadilla
• Gorditas
• Guacamole
• Salsa
• Choose from the above dishes, recipes are available on the Internet. I hope this list will help you or your caterer create your own special vegan wedding menu. Have fun and enjoy your vegan special day.! Contributed by Nily Glaser, author of the Wedding Planning Guide Book that is currently (for a limited time) available to download and print for FREE. To get your FREE copy CLICK HERE

Is there such a thing as a person you can hire that sets up wedding decorations at your venue who isn’t a wedding planner?

You can hire a decorator to set up the wedding decorations at your venue. Actually if you consult the managers of your your venue they should be able to recommend Wedding Decorators. You can also ask your Florist.

However, don’t be surprised, if once asked, friends and family members will be honored and volunteer to decorate the wedding site for you. This will be done with care and love and save you money too.

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Usually three tiers will serve 50 to 100 guests. If you want to keep the top tier, you will need four tiers. If you are on a budget, you may want the have a small wedding cake and save money as wedding cakes are quite expensive. The guests’ cake servings can be cut out of plain but frosted sheet cakes. The guests will not know the difference. You will probably need 3–4 but they will cost a fraction of the cost of a wedding cake.

Sample of a small cake.

Sample of a small cake

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This is a very important question! I wish more people will ask it. If you have enough leftovers to do so safely, DONATE it to a homeless shelter, a rescue shelter or any shelter that is available in your community. Additionally, many houses of worship distribute food to the poor you may of course donate to them. make sure that you are aware of your local laws and health department regulations. Donate only food that will not go bad. Be cautious about giving any food that can spoil without immediate refrigeration. I do not recommend having your guests take food home. It is tacky.

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To avoid having your groomsman dressed better than you on your wedding day. You have 2 options:

1. Have the best man and the groomsmen rent tuxedos or suits at the same time and from the same place as you do. Many attire rental shops will supply the groom’s tuxedo or suit for free if your party rents a minimum number.
2. If the groomsmen wear their own set a dress code. For example: A Dark Blue suit, White shirt, Solid Light Blue tie etc.

Also, take care of your grooming. Be sure to be a very well groomed groom (pun intended).

But most importantly, you are marrying the love of your life. Celebrate this very special occasion and don’t worry about anything other than your happiness and joy.

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It is very common for brides to have a separate reception dress, especially if her wedding gown is long, as most are.

Usually, brides change to a more comfortable dress after the “required dances”, cutting the cake, throwing the bouquet and after the photographer captured the most important parts of the wedding. Brides change to the outfit or dress they will wear leaving the wedding for their honeymoon.

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trend in general

Everything evolves and just like wedding themselves, all of their aspects change. Old trends are replaced by new ones that are often influenced by new developments in the wedding industry, from Martha Stewart, bridal magazines and TV food shows to the sophistication and Personal inspiration of brides and grooms.

The newest and most welcomed development is that today wedding planning is not merely the responsibility of the bride and her family. Today, most grooms actively participate in planning the wedding with their brides and are making creative choices as well. The majority, loves it! Today, brides and grooms want to make a statement to represent their uniqueness and how special they are. When either or one has children, theirs is a family wedding and the kids become an integral part. This brings us to another important wedding trend. The bride and groom incorporate their personal style making it the focal point at their wedding reception. To achieve this, they coordinate everything to the wedding colors, wedding themes, and flowers. For a family wedding, the kids are not only included, but when age and ability appropriate, participate in the decision-making and the actual ceremony and reception.

As part of who they are, it is becoming quite common for brides and grooms to get sentimental and either copy or use the actual wedding gown, cake top and other wedding related family heirlooms their grandparents or parents used at their weddings.
As part of who they are, it is becoming quite common for brides and grooms to get sentimental and either copy or use the actual wedding gown, cake top and other wedding related family heirlooms their grandparents or parents used at their weddings.

According to couples we interviewed, shopping on the Internet is definitely the most profound wedding trend of the 21st Century. Most went googling to find exactly what they want, often finding unique items they did not know were available. The general consensus was that they do not know how they would have planned or pulled their wedding together, without the Internet.
Brides and grooms, as well as those looking for wedding gifts and bridal accessories for them, use it and find it easy, convenient and safe. Quite a few interviewees said that they actually count on the Internet because they are just too busy. Brides and grooms actually enjoy getting together, sitting in front of the screen, to read articles to get ideas and choose what they want.
Once decided, they found purchasing on line not only saves them money, travel, running from store to store and standing in lines, but their orders are delivered directly to their homes or work. The majority said that they love it! Personalization – a definite trend in wedding cakes 21st Century brides and grooms want the wedding cake to be as individual as they are.
There used to be a time when brides chose a cake from the catalog the baker gave them, or brought a picture from a magazine. Today brides as well as grooms, realize how special they are and do not want a replica of a pictured cake. Aware that the wedding cake is the centerpiece of their reception, they want to have their cake individually designed to their own personal style and taste, both taste in design and taste in flavor. So they put on their thinking caps and are coming in with their own ideas, usually coordinating their cake design, the frosting design, the decorations and the cake topper, with the wedding color scheme, wedding theme, bridal attire, flowers, wedding accessories, reception hall decor, and if they have children, the family.

Having provide the bakers with details to adhere to, they expect the result to be a totally unique and PERSONALIZED cake. The Shape Gone are the over-embellished cakes. Today brides and grooms want to express themselves with wedding cakes to look luxurious, classy and elegant, coordinate well with the wedding motifs and taste scrumptiously good.
Though round tiers are still the favorite, tiers shaped as square, octagon, and hexagon are gaining popularity, as do tiers of different shapes stacked together. For example, round tiers on square or hexagon tiers. Once assemble the shape(s) and color(s) chosen should produce a simple yet luxurious, classy and elegant look. The Structure The trend in cake structure offer a few choices all leave plenty of room for personalization and creativity.

A 21st Century traditional wedding cake is usually assembled of 3 to 5 tiers stacked upon each other without a separation such as the once popular Greek columns. A variation is a wedding cake ensemble that displays each layer individually rather than stacked. connected by a motif.
A relatively new comer is the drum. This is a popular technique that brides and groom appreciate. Basically, bakers add a layer looking Styrofoam insert that adds height and volume to the cake without the expense of a cake layer. The inserts provide a perfect place to tuck in charms for the charm pull, flowers or cake jewelry should the couple want to utilize it in this manner.

An ever-growing number of marrying couples are choosing alternatives to the traditional wedding cake save one tier for the bride and groom to slice and feed each other and for wedding photos.

With the costs of weddings in general and the rise in wedding cakes relating fees, a few new trends have become quite popular. Brides and grooms, especially if they have to stay within a specified budget are looking for ways to save money. So, what used to be a creative alternative by some became a trend.
The trend concentrates on options that eliminate the cutting and serving fees usually charged by caterers.
Other benefits that were realized, are that they can also shave off the centerpiece expense and serve as dessert. Following are two options that are individual single layer wedding cake for each table to makes a spectacular and edible centerpiece. For additional fun, guests are invited to cut and serve the guests seated at their table. A cupcake wedding cake actually, cupcake tower as a wedding cake is a well-liked trend. Most couples top their cupcake tower with a cake tier for the bride and groom. Quite a few brides and grooms we interviewed, planned to place a mini cup cake tower on each table as a dessert and centerpiece in one. We even came across brides and grooms who chose Golden donuts because donuts look like wedding bands. There are a few reasons the single layer centerpiece. the cupcake or mini-cupcakes and even the donuts wedding cakes to some extent, are becoming very popular. They are real money savers. They do not require special skills and can be home-baked way ahead of time and frozen. They can be lavishly decorated and makes a wonderful edible centerpiece to be enjoyed by all. They can have different flavors, various delicious fillings, different though coordinating colors and fancy decorations. Busy brides and grooms can place an order with a supermarket that offers a bakery, or shopping clubs such as Costco and Sam’s Club where they are very reasonably priced. They eliminate all slicing and serving costs. They allow, actually invite creativity.

A common denominator we encountered was couples who utilized different colors and – or themes for their centerpiece cakes to distinguish the different tables. matching the place settings and place cards. For example The RED ROSE table – card: Mr. and Mrs. Smith the RED TABLE. Or The PINK ROSE table – card: Mr. and Mrs. Jones the PINK TABLE. Whether sophisticated, whimsical or anywhere in between, Cupcake and mini cake centerpieces are unique and gaining popularity fast. The Icing on the CakeThough butter cream, and cream cheese frostings are still in demand, the current trend in cake frosting is Rolled fondant or the less expensive faux-fondant with its smooth porcelain look, is the most popular frosting currently put on wedding cakes.

It was not quite as popular until bakers started to enrich it with flavor and color. Now, that bakers can match wedding colors, motifs, duplicate intricate details and create silhouettes to complement wedding themes, Rolled has become a real favorite.

The popularity of the fondant type frosting is that it is very luxurious and elegant in its smooth, porcelain like look. It encourages creativity. Bakers can match wedding colors, motifs, duplicate intricate details and create silhouettes to complement wedding theme and embellish with scroll work. The Flavors When I got married, the wedding cake was either vanilla, chocolate or a marble of the two. Today there are tens of flavors for the bride and groom to choose from. Many tend to choose a different flavor for each tier, cake, or a certain number of cupcakes to represent their individual favorite cake flavors. Some add different filling for each cake flavor as well as frostings of different flavors. The Decorations Personalization is paramount. Brides and grooms use their freedom of expression throughout the wedding and the cake is no exception.

The latest trend is to s The Wedding Cake Companions – recent trend. Two 21st trends one a historical custom renewed and the other brand new are the Grooms cake and the Children Family wedding cake.

The Groom Cake is a concept that was unfamiliar, when I got married 42 years ago but was familiar earlier in history. It has made a comeback and is occupying center stage. placed on the same table with the wedding cake. Though Chocolate on chocolate remains the favorites for the Single-layer rectangle Groom Cake, many brides like to choose a cake flavor and design that will make him happy. Thus, it is decorated to represent his unique personality, hobbies and interests. Some wedding cake bakers add a Groom Cake as a part of their package. Otherwise, ordering it in a Supermarket, or a shopping clubs that have bakeries that decorate cakes, is money saving tactic used by many.

The Children Family wedding cake, is a rather new concept that evolved quite recently, as more and more Blending Family Weddings that include children began to take place.
Celebrating their blending family, many couples use a Family Cake topper to celebrate their creating a new, extended, blended family. Their cake table also includes a cake celebrating the kids.

We have come across a few variations of the cake.
A Single-layer rectangle, Frosted with the color chosen (voted for?) by the kids and decorated with their various, hobbies and interests, topped with a Family Cake Topper currently available with a bride a groom and a boy, a bride a groom and a girl or a silhouette style a bride a groom and two children.

A cupcake tower is very popular with the kids too. Each layer of cupcakes can be devoted to a single child, So if for example Ben likes blue and plays soccer, his layer of cupcakes can be decorated accordingly, while the layer devoted to Susie who loves anything lavender and who wants to be a teacher can be decorated accordingly.

Traditionally, the oldest child gets the bottom layer and the youngest the layer closer to the top. Surround the center layer with a ribbon personalized with the bride and groom’s first names and wedding date. Though the cake is consumed, the ribbon becomes a wedding keepsake.
Wedding theme and seasons are dominant throughout the wedding and the cake as well.
Cutouts silhouettes in any color to accent the wedding theme adorn many wedding cakes.
Fall theme wedding cakes take on a look of their own when embellished with colorful autumn leaves, mini pumpkins and marzipan fruit and acorns.

Winter theme cakes look gorgeous embellished with snowflakes or dressed up as holiday gifts.
Flowers and floral petals that match the wedding theme and colors whether Fresh, silk, satin or confection, have always been and are still a popular adornment for wedding cakes. Another trend is the dramatic effect of Flowers going from bold color to pastel as they cascade to the top, with the bottom tier bold and the top tier in pastel. For example go from dark red to pink flowers or from dark purple to pale lavender flowers.

Simple decorations such as the look of pearls, curving scroll work, and family initials are in demand. The trend of incorporating two or more shades of the same color within frosting is also getting noticed. The Cake Tops Wedding Cake Trends: Unique Cake Top
The cake tops is the crown of the wedding cake. It is a keepsake that should also make the wedding cake a conversation piece.

Personalization is the current trend. Cake toppers are often chosen because they either reflect the lifestyle or hobbies the bride and groom share together, coordinate with the wedding theme, emphasize the wedding flowers or display their initials.

Although the well-known plastic bride and groom cake tops are still around, today the trend is to incorporate a unique, personalized or theme top on the wedding cake. One of the hottest cake top trends is individual initials or a monogram created with stunning Cake Jewelry.
Flowers offer a way to tie together the colors and floral scheme of the ceremony and reception and are very pleasing to the eye. Therefore, flower and ribbon cake tops have never died out and though they are not a trend, they are quite popular.

For family weddings, family cake tops that represent a bride, a groom and children are in very high demand.

TIP:
Set and adhere to your wedding cake budget. Visit with at least 3 wedding cake chefs, leaving room for negotiations. Check out their portfolios and taste samples of their cakes. Be sure to get everything in a written contract that does not leave room for price changes.

ANSWER:

There is no substitute!

wedding vows specify “till death do us part.” It is, or at least it should be as realistic today as it was going back to Bible days.

A vow is like swearing and every word should have a life long meaning. After all, the vow is not only in front of witnesses, but it is given to the person you love. The person you should consider the most important in your life. The person you intend to share your life with. Where I am concerned, you are bound to keep it. My husband and I certainly did. We have been very happily very married for over 55 years. A few of our friends had ‘Renewal of the Vows ceremonies. My husband would not hear of it! His reply was straight forward: “I meant it when I vowed at our wedding. So, why repeat what is already set in stone?”

Nily Glaser, A published author of many articles and guides (1998-present)

Etiquette dictates that: Unless you are told in advance (at which time you can decide if to accept the invitation or not), whether your family or anyone else, invites you to a fancy restaurant or anywhere else where a payment is required, the host who invites you should be responsible for paying the bill. No host can put invited guests in an uncomfortable position should they not be prepared to pick up the tab.

Answer:

Usually three tiers will serve 50 to 100 guests. If you want to keep the top tier, you will need four tiers. If you are on a budget, you may want the have a small wedding cake and save money as wedding cakes are quite expensive. The guests’ cake servings can be cut out of plain but frosted sheet cakes. The guests will not know the difference. You will probably need 3–4 but they will cost a fraction of the cost of a wedding cake.

Sample of a small cake.

Sample of a small cake

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This is a very important question! I wish more people will ask it. If you have enough leftovers to do so safely, DONATE it to a homeless shelter, a rescue shelter or any shelter that is available in your community. Additionally, many houses of worship distribute food to the poor you may of course donate to them. make sure that you are aware of your local laws and health department regulations. Donate only food that will not go bad. Be cautious about giving any food that can spoil without immediate refrigeration. I do not recommend having your guests take food home. It is tacky.

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To avoid having your groomsman dressed better than you on your wedding day. You have 2 options:

1. Have the best man and the groomsmen rent tuxedos or suits at the same time and from the same place as you do. Many attire rental shops will supply the groom’s tuxedo or suit for free if your party rents a minimum number.
2. If the groomsmen wear their own set a dress code. For example: A Dark Blue suit, White shirt, Solid Light Blue tie etc.

Also, take care of your grooming. Be sure to be a very well groomed groom (pun intended).

But most importantly, you are marrying the love of your life. Celebrate this very special occasion and don’t worry about anything other than your happiness and joy.

ANSWER:

It is very common for brides to have a separate reception dress, especially if her wedding gown is long, as most are.

Usually, brides change to a more comfortable dress after the “required dances”, cutting the cake, throwing the bouquet and after the photographer captured the most important parts of the wedding. Brides change to the outfit or dress they will wear leaving the wedding for their honeymoon.

Contributed by Nily Glaser, author of the “Wedding Planning Guide Book”.

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trend in general

Everything evolves and just like wedding themselves, all of their aspects change. Old trends are replaced by new ones that are often influenced by new developments in the wedding industry, from Martha Stewart, bridal magazines and TV food shows to the sophistication and Personal inspiration of brides and grooms.

The newest and most welcomed development is that today wedding planning is not merely the responsibility of the bride and her family. Today, most grooms actively participate in planning the wedding with their brides and are making creative choices as well. The majority, loves it! Today, brides and grooms want to make a statement to represent their uniqueness and how special they are. When either or one has children, theirs is a family wedding and the kids become an integral part. This brings us to another important wedding trend. The bride and groom incorporate their personal style making it the focal point at their wedding reception. To achieve this, they coordinate everything to the wedding colors, wedding themes, and flowers. For a family wedding, the kids are not only included, but when age and ability appropriate, participate in the decision-making and the actual ceremony and reception.

As part of who they are, it is becoming quite common for brides and grooms to get sentimental and either copy or use the actual wedding gown, cake top and other wedding related family heirlooms their grandparents or parents used at their weddings.
As part of who they are, it is becoming quite common for brides and grooms to get sentimental and either copy or use the actual wedding gown, cake top and other wedding related family heirlooms their grandparents or parents used at their weddings.

According to couples we interviewed, shopping on the Internet is definitely the most profound wedding trend of the 21st Century. Most went googling to find exactly what they want, often finding unique items they did not know were available. The general consensus was that they do not know how they would have planned or pulled their wedding together, without the Internet.
Brides and grooms, as well as those looking for wedding gifts and bridal accessories for them, use it and find it easy, convenient and safe. Quite a few interviewees said that they actually count on the Internet because they are just too busy. Brides and grooms actually enjoy getting together, sitting in front of the screen, to read articles to get ideas and choose what they want.
Once decided, they found purchasing on line not only saves them money, travel, running from store to store and standing in lines, but their orders are delivered directly to their homes or work. The majority said that they love it! Personalization – a definite trend in wedding cakes 21st Century brides and grooms want the wedding cake to be as individual as they are.
There used to be a time when brides chose a cake from the catalog the baker gave them, or brought a picture from a magazine. Today brides as well as grooms, realize how special they are and do not want a replica of a pictured cake. Aware that the wedding cake is the centerpiece of their reception, they want to have their cake individually designed to their own personal style and taste, both taste in design and taste in flavor. So they put on their thinking caps and are coming in with their own ideas, usually coordinating their cake design, the frosting design, the decorations and the cake topper, with the wedding color scheme, wedding theme, bridal attire, flowers, wedding accessories, reception hall decor, and if they have children, the family.

Having provide the bakers with details to adhere to, they expect the result to be a totally unique and PERSONALIZED cake. The Shape Gone are the over-embellished cakes. Today brides and grooms want to express themselves with wedding cakes to look luxurious, classy and elegant, coordinate well with the wedding motifs and taste scrumptiously good.
Though round tiers are still the favorite, tiers shaped as square, octagon, and hexagon are gaining popularity, as do tiers of different shapes stacked together. For example, round tiers on square or hexagon tiers. Once assemble the shape(s) and color(s) chosen should produce a simple yet luxurious, classy and elegant look. The Structure The trend in cake structure offer a few choices all leave plenty of room for personalization and creativity.

A 21st Century traditional wedding cake is usually assembled of 3 to 5 tiers stacked upon each other without a separation such as the once popular Greek columns. A variation is a wedding cake ensemble that displays each layer individually rather than stacked. connected by a motif.
A relatively new comer is the drum. This is a popular technique that brides and groom appreciate. Basically, bakers add a layer looking Styrofoam insert that adds height and volume to the cake without the expense of a cake layer. The inserts provide a perfect place to tuck in charms for the charm pull, flowers or cake jewelry should the couple want to utilize it in this manner.

An ever-growing number of marrying couples are choosing alternatives to the traditional wedding cake save one tier for the bride and groom to slice and feed each other and for wedding photos.

With the costs of weddings in general and the rise in wedding cakes relating fees, a few new trends have become quite popular. Brides and grooms, especially if they have to stay within a specified budget are looking for ways to save money. So, what used to be a creative alternative by some became a trend.
The trend concentrates on options that eliminate the cutting and serving fees usually charged by caterers.
Other benefits that were realized, are that they can also shave off the centerpiece expense and serve as dessert. Following are two options that are individual single layer wedding cake for each table to makes a spectacular and edible centerpiece. For additional fun, guests are invited to cut and serve the guests seated at their table. A cupcake wedding cake actually, cupcake tower as a wedding cake is a well-liked trend. Most couples top their cupcake tower with a cake tier for the bride and groom. Quite a few brides and grooms we interviewed, planned to place a mini cup cake tower on each table as a dessert and centerpiece in one. We even came across brides and grooms who chose Golden donuts because donuts look like wedding bands. There are a few reasons the single layer centerpiece. the cupcake or mini-cupcakes and even the donuts wedding cakes to some extent, are becoming very popular. They are real money savers. They do not require special skills and can be home-baked way ahead of time and frozen. They can be lavishly decorated and makes a wonderful edible centerpiece to be enjoyed by all. They can have different flavors, various delicious fillings, different though coordinating colors and fancy decorations. Busy brides and grooms can place an order with a supermarket that offers a bakery, or shopping clubs such as Costco and Sam’s Club where they are very reasonably priced. They eliminate all slicing and serving costs. They allow, actually invite creativity.

A common denominator we encountered was couples who utilized different colors and – or themes for their centerpiece cakes to distinguish the different tables. matching the place settings and place cards. For example The RED ROSE table – card: Mr. and Mrs. Smith the RED TABLE. Or The PINK ROSE table – card: Mr. and Mrs. Jones the PINK TABLE. Whether sophisticated, whimsical or anywhere in between, Cupcake and mini cake centerpieces are unique and gaining popularity fast. The Icing on the CakeThough butter cream, and cream cheese frostings are still in demand, the current trend in cake frosting is Rolled fondant or the less expensive faux-fondant with its smooth porcelain look, is the most popular frosting currently put on wedding cakes.

It was not quite as popular until bakers started to enrich it with flavor and color. Now, that bakers can match wedding colors, motifs, duplicate intricate details and create silhouettes to complement wedding themes, Rolled has become a real favorite.

The popularity of the fondant type frosting is that it is very luxurious and elegant in its smooth, porcelain like look. It encourages creativity. Bakers can match wedding colors, motifs, duplicate intricate details and create silhouettes to complement wedding theme and embellish with scroll work. The Flavors When I got married, the wedding cake was either vanilla, chocolate or a marble of the two. Today there are tens of flavors for the bride and groom to choose from. Many tend to choose a different flavor for each tier, cake, or a certain number of cupcakes to represent their individual favorite cake flavors. Some add different filling for each cake flavor as well as frostings of different flavors. The Decorations Personalization is paramount. Brides and grooms use their freedom of expression throughout the wedding and the cake is no exception.

The latest trend is to s The Wedding Cake Companions – recent trend. Two 21st trends one a historical custom renewed and the other brand new are the Grooms cake and the Children Family wedding cake.

The Groom Cake is a concept that was unfamiliar, when I got married 42 years ago but was familiar earlier in history. It has made a comeback and is occupying center stage. placed on the same table with the wedding cake. Though Chocolate on chocolate remains the favorites for the Single-layer rectangle Groom Cake, many brides like to choose a cake flavor and design that will make him happy. Thus, it is decorated to represent his unique personality, hobbies and interests. Some wedding cake bakers add a Groom Cake as a part of their package. Otherwise, ordering it in a Supermarket, or a shopping clubs that have bakeries that decorate cakes, is money saving tactic used by many.

The Children Family wedding cake, is a rather new concept that evolved quite recently, as more and more Blending Family Weddings that include children began to take place.
Celebrating their blending family, many couples use a Family Cake topper to celebrate their creating a new, extended, blended family. Their cake table also includes a cake celebrating the kids.

We have come across a few variations of the cake.
A Single-layer rectangle, Frosted with the color chosen (voted for?) by the kids and decorated with their various, hobbies and interests, topped with a Family Cake Topper currently available with a bride a groom and a boy, a bride a groom and a girl or a silhouette style a bride a groom and two children.

A cupcake tower is very popular with the kids too. Each layer of cupcakes can be devoted to a single child, So if for example Ben likes blue and plays soccer, his layer of cupcakes can be decorated accordingly, while the layer devoted to Susie who loves anything lavender and who wants to be a teacher can be decorated accordingly.

Traditionally, the oldest child gets the bottom layer and the youngest the layer closer to the top. Surround the center layer with a ribbon personalized with the bride and groom’s first names and wedding date. Though the cake is consumed, the ribbon becomes a wedding keepsake.
Wedding theme and seasons are dominant throughout the wedding and the cake as well.
Cutouts silhouettes in any color to accent the wedding theme adorn many wedding cakes.
Fall theme wedding cakes take on a look of their own when embellished with colorful autumn leaves, mini pumpkins and marzipan fruit and acorns.

Winter theme cakes look gorgeous embellished with snowflakes or dressed up as holiday gifts.
Flowers and floral petals that match the wedding theme and colors whether Fresh, silk, satin or confection, have always been and are still a popular adornment for wedding cakes. Another trend is the dramatic effect of Flowers going from bold color to pastel as they cascade to the top, with the bottom tier bold and the top tier in pastel. For example go from dark red to pink flowers or from dark purple to pale lavender flowers.

Simple decorations such as the look of pearls, curving scroll work, and family initials are in demand. The trend of incorporating two or more shades of the same color within frosting is also getting noticed. The Cake Tops Wedding Cake Trends: Unique Cake Top
The cake tops is the crown of the wedding cake. It is a keepsake that should also make the wedding cake a conversation piece.

Personalization is the current trend. Cake toppers are often chosen because they either reflect the lifestyle or hobbies the bride and groom share together, coordinate with the wedding theme, emphasize the wedding flowers or display their initials.

Although the well-known plastic bride and groom cake tops are still around, today the trend is to incorporate a unique, personalized or theme top on the wedding cake. One of the hottest cake top trends is individual initials or a monogram created with stunning Cake Jewelry.
Flowers offer a way to tie together the colors and floral scheme of the ceremony and reception and are very pleasing to the eye. Therefore, flower and ribbon cake tops have never died out and though they are not a trend, they are quite popular.

For family weddings, family cake tops that represent a bride, a groom and children are in very high demand.

TIP:
Set and adhere to your wedding cake budget. Visit with at least 3 wedding cake chefs, leaving room for negotiations. Check out their portfolios and taste samples of their cakes. Be sure to get everything in a written contract that does not leave room for price changes.

ANSWER:

There is no substitute!

wedding vows specify “till death do us part.” It is, or at least it should be as realistic today as it was going back to Bible days.

A vow is like swearing and every word should have a life long meaning. After all, the vow is not only in front of witnesses, but it is given to the person you love. The person you should consider the most important in your life. The person you intend to share your life with. Where I am concerned, you are bound to keep it. My husband and I certainly did. We have been very happily very married for over 55 years. A few of our friends had ‘Renewal of the Vows ceremonies. My husband would not hear of it! His reply was straight forward: “I meant it when I vowed at our wedding. So, why repeat what is already set in stone?”

Nily Glaser, A published author of many articles and guides (1998-present)

Etiquette dictates that: Unless you are told in advance (at which time you can decide if to accept the invitation or not), whether your family or anyone else, invites you to a fancy restaurant or anywhere else where a payment is required, the host who invites you should be responsible for paying the bill. No host can put invited guests in an uncomfortable position should they not be prepared to pick up the tab.

To answer your question, I will tell the story of my granddaughter’s wedding in 2021 from all places in New York.

My Granddaughter just got married in a garden wedding. Her wedding reception ideas are perfect for any outdoor weddings such as a garden, a beach or a park. It was an awesome wedding and not counting the attire, was inexpensive. It cost less than $2,000..

My granddaughter and her then fiance are students with very limited finances. With the Corona virus overhead, they decided to have a garden wedding. the ceremony took place in the early afternoon, under a decorated stand. The reception was in an outdoor tent. The guests came to the wedding from all over the country (California, Colorado, Texas,Tennessee and of course New York) to witness and celebrate. They wanted to enjoy the newlyweds very special day, and each other. So, there was no entertainment. It would have been illegal under Gov. Cuomo’s rule. The tent was decorated with flowers and centerpieces. There was champagne, wine soft drinks, coffee, and lunch platters (From a restaurant). Also, fruit and finger snacks were served buffet style.

It was a beautiful wedding filled with love and joy.

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ANSWER:

Once asked to play at your best friend’s wedding you need to know if you are expected to play just a few selections or throughout the entire wedding – ceremony and reception.

I don’t know what instrument you play.

But no matter the instrument, you should consult with your best friend whether to perform classical music or popular songs.

Wedding guests come in all ages. So, Classical music will be appreciated especially by the older guests.

Contributed by Nily Glaser of the A-wedding Day Magazine home of the FREE Wedding Planning Guide, Book.

ANSWER:

Following is a list of questions to ask a possible DJ.

Go over the questions and make sure to mark the ones that reflect what you are looking for.

Make sure to interview at least 3 before you hire.Questions for the Contact Person:

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Scroll down, select and click on the Music and entertainment worksheets

How many songs and musical pieces are in your library? (Should be at least 5,000-10,000

Can you provide music for the reception?

Will your repertoire be tailored to suit our wedding requirements?

Will you provide us with a list of songs and music selections to choose from?

Will you accommodate special requests for songs or musical pieces we or our guests would like played at our wedding?

If so, how long in advance do we need to provide them?

If we include children in the reception can you have music game or activities geared for them?

What is the latest time frame for making changes?

What are your hours – minimum – maximum?

Will you be able to, and prepared with additional material, should we want you to stay longer than planned?

What do you charge for overtime?

What kind of equipment do you use? (The most common sound system for DJs is by-amping. In order to achieve clear and loud music, it separates the bass from the music amplifies it separately and then plays it through bass bins.)

How long before the wedding reception will you set up? (Be assured that there will be ample time before the wedding reception to allow for set up and testing of the equipment, lighting and special effects if any.)

Do you bring backup equipment with you?

Is basic effects lighting included in the price

Do you provide an entertainment planner

Will you come to my home to go over the music and – or entertainment plans?

How soon before the wedding will you go over the program with us?

What will happen to us if for some reason you have to back out?

How long have you been accommodating weddings?

How many wedding clients have you served?

Can you provide us with references

Can you provide us with a profile of the DJ musicians that will be assigned to our wedding including?

Do you also provide a cordless microphone and an Emcee or someone who will announce toasts, speeches, special dances, at the reception

What is your attire? Does it vary according to the wedding theme? (e.g. Western)

Do you offer a variety of wedding musicians – entertainers to choose from?

How many people will perform at our wedding?

How often and for how long do they take a break?

Will they require a meal?

Are gratuities included in the price?

Are taxes included in the price?

What additional expenses may be charged? (other than overtime)?

Do you require a deposit?

How much and by when will we need to put down the deposit?

Do you offer any discounts?

Do you accept checks and credit cards?

How many consultations do you provide in your package prices?

Do you offer any guarantees?

Will you provide us with a written contract?

Does the contract include a 3 day no obligation cancellation clause?

What are your cancellation terms should we cancel after 3 days?

Do you carry liability insurance?

Are the DJ and musicians insured and bonded?

Are you and your performers members of any professional organizations?

Once you made your choice, you need to receive a

written contract signed by the person in charge, and dated

*The contract must include all of your responsibilities and all of the responsibilities, warranties and guarantees offered by the Dj Service Provider. Caveat Emptor – Buyer beware!

Read each contract very carefully, on, under and above the line.

Be sure that you understand it fully and agree with all the terms.

If you have questions, concerns, or are uncertain, contact them for clarification.

In most parts of the USA you have 3 days to examine the contract and if you need to, cancel with no penalties.

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ANSWER:

Since most men today wear a wedding ring as of course do women, most couples buy 2 wedding rings. One for the groom to give his bride and one for the bride to give her groom. This is after the groom has previously given his to be fiance an engagement ring.

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To avoid having your groomsman dressed better than you on your wedding day. You have 2 options:

1. Have the best man and the groomsmen rent tuxedos or suits at the same time and from the same place as you do. Many attire rental shops will supply the groom’s tuxedo or suit for free if your party rents a minimum number.
2. If the groomsmen wear their own set a dress code. For example: A Dark Blue suit, White shirt, Solid Light Blue tie etc.

Also, take care of your grooming. Be sure to be a very well groomed groom (pun intended).

But most importantly, you are marrying the love of your life. Celebrate this very special occasion and don’t worry about anything other than your happiness and joy.

ANSWER:

Unless you invite guests to your wedding by a mailed timely printed invitation, you need to invite last minute guests with a direct, personal contact.

If you can possibly meet, let’s say for coffee or by visiting them, this is the best way. However, a phone call is another way to reach them.

DO NOT invite by Email! If I were to receive an email invitation, I would consider it as a “by the way” or an “after thought” invitation. My impression of such an invitation would be That I was not considered as a guest to start with and I am just a fill in for someone who cannot attend. I would not go. In fact a may not even reply to such an invitation.

If you invite by direct contact you can have the last minute invitees assured that you want them as your wedding guests. You may need to be ready in case they wonder and ask why you waited so long before inviting them. However, do not under any circumstances mention that originally space was limited or that you needed to wait and see if there will be room for them. No one wants to be considered a “second class citizen, or not quite as important as others as you phrased it: (since they are obviously “B-list”).

You don’t want people to be insulted! So, if you cannot assure them that their presence is important to you, you are better off NOT inviting them.

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you want your best friend to be your maid of honor but you do not want to create bad feelings. So, first ask her to be your MOH. If she agrees, you have a few choices. If as you say she is extremely poor but is your best friend you should “gift” her with items she would need to purchase on her own otherwise. Consider that you do not want to insult or otherwise hurt her feelings so be very casual approaching the following. Take her with you when you go shopping for your wedding gown and buy her the dress and shoes when you buy your gown. Tell her something like “ I need your eyes and your opinion”. Once at the store, look around and tell her that you notice this beautiful dress and have her try it on. Explain that as your MOH you want her to look stunning. Additionally, give her the option to either wear a dress she already owns, or suggest that she looks around and find a favorite dress. Even better, have her choose her attire from another store or even of the Internet. (You will save money.) You may suggest to be with her when she shops for her attire. Tell her that everyone at your wedding party expects a gift from the bride and groom. It is a given! So the dress and shoes are your gift to your MOH as she is more than just a bridesmaid. You say that she can’t afford to do anything that comes with being in the bridal party. Yes there are many thing she can do that will not incur expenses. She can help you organize, she can also help you choose decoration etc. You can give her specific tasks so she can help at the reception. I am sure that you got the idea. If none of the above ideas works for you, and you have not done so, do not ask her to be your MOH. Contributed by Nily Glaser, author of the currently FREE Wedding Planning Guide Book. To download and print your planner, CLICK HERE.

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There is no such a thing as popular wedding dress styles. Every bride is unique, her body shape is unique as well and her accessories.

Don’t forget that your wedding style is a most important aspect to consider.

Lets start with the attire choices for your wedding style

Very Formal: Floor length dress or gown with matching shoes and some Jewelry.

Formal: Knee length, calf length or Floor length dress or gown with matching shoes and some Jewelry

Semi-Formal: Any length dresses with matching shoes and some Jewelry

Casual : Knee length dresses or suits with matching shoes and some Jewelry

Very Casual: There is no specific dress code

Things to Consider About Choosing your Wedding Gown – Dress;

The Image You Want to Create: Classy, Romantic, Casual, Fairy tale

Style of Gown Dress: Classy, Vintage, Time Period, your Heritage

Your Body Shape: Small Busted, Large Busted, Curvy Figure, Large bottom

Your Height: Short, Tall, Short with High Heels, Tall with High Heels

Features You Want to Hide: Big Hips, Big Backside, Big Belly, Large Frame

Features You Want to Show: Slim and Proportionate, pretty neckline, Nice Bust Line, delicate arms

Length of the Dress for: Outdoors, Casual Wedding, Formal Wedding, Renewal of the vows or Remarriage Wedding

Your Hair: Hair Down, Hair Down with Tiara, Hair up, Hair up with Tiara

Your Shoes: Flat, Sandals, Pumps, High Heels

Location of Your Wedding: Outdoors, Private Home, Reception Hall, Ballroom

Time of Day of Your Wedding: daytime, Teatime, Early Evening, Nighttime

The Gown Dress Must: Make you Look Great, Keep you Comfortable, Look Good in Photos, Go Well with Your Jewelry.

Your budget is: $___________ Enough to: Use a designer, Buy Off the Internet, Buy Off the Rack, have it Sewn By a Seamstress, Look for Special Sales.

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A ring by any name is a ring. The symbolism of its roundness is that it has no beginning and no end which means forever. As long as it is made of strong material that will not deteriorate, it is a perfect ring.

Both my granddaughter and her husband work in a lab. So they decided against precious metal rings, so as not to harm them with chemicals they use. I don’t know what their rings are made of but they are neither gold, silver or platinum.

So, go ahead! Wishbone rings are perfect wedding bands.

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Of course. In fact, since Bible times, light blue was often chosen for wedding dresses. White was introduced and became a trend, when Queen Victoria

married Prince Albert in 1840.

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It is very common for brides to have a separate reception dress, especially if her wedding gown is long, as most are.

Usually, brides change to a more comfortable dress after the “required dances”, cutting the cake, throwing the bouquet and after the photographer captured the most important parts of the wedding. Brides change to the outfit or dress they will wear leaving the wedding for their honeymoon.

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What is a “white” wedding?

Do you mean the bride wearing white? If this is what you mean, the answer is that the “white” wedding is absolutely not necessary, it is strictly a choice. It has become the most common in some countries including the USA.

However, if you comb the internet under weddings traditions, you will find many examples of the customs and traditions of different countries and ethnicity. For example: Look for bridal attire in India, China, Muslim countries, some European countries etc.

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First thing, I will ask her if she does or does not want to be a bridesmaid. If she does, I would let her choose her own dress, as long as it matches the other bridesmaids’ dresses in material and color.

Chances are that the price will be so much higher, that she will change her mind and wear the dress you chose. if she still prefers to choose her own dress, she will still blend well with the other bridesmaids.

Remember: You must insist on identical color and material, especially the color.

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The tradition of brides wear a veil over their head goes back to Biblical Days.

When Jacob wanted to marry Rachel, He asked her father Laban for her hand and Laban reaction was; “You have to work for me for 7 years and at the end of this time, I shall give you her hand in marriage.” Well, Rachel had an older sister Leah so, Laban covered her head until after the marriage ceremony at which point Jacob discovered that he married Leah instead of Rachel. Now, he had to work 7 more years in order to be allowed to marry his love, Rachel.

Since both Judaism and Christianity believe in the Bible and its stories, brides wear a veil over their head.

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Q. Who is in charge of your wedding, mostly FINANCIALLY?

A. If your parents are paying for the wedding, they expect to make some decisions.

Q. Is the groom Indian too?

A. If not, it might be easier to convince your parents to have what you consider a “normal wedding like where the bride wheres a white dress and stuff “ However, if the groom is Indian too, get his opinion regarding having a NON-Indian wedding, even before you approach your parents.

Q. Can you be flexible enough to allow following a few Indian wedding traditions at your wedding?

A. This will probably help convince your parents that you – their daughter, the bride are not ignoring or disrespecting your family’s culture and traditions.

I have witnessed a wedding between a Mexican groom and a Jewish bride where the ceremony included the Mexican traditions of the groom giving the bride 13 coins and the Lazzo they use to “tie” their lives together. The ceremony also included the Jewish wedding tradition of groom shuttering a glass. It was beautiful and made everyone happy. So incorporating tradition into the wedding is a good thing. I have answered many questions. If you like my answers, join my group at:

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Go to the wedding and share your stepdaughter’s happiness. If anyone gives a speech, they can mention you as a guest of honor, as part of the family, or say something about your contribution to her upbringing.

However, her dad is her dad and her request to have him lead her to the altar is natural.

At my granddaughter’s wedding, her step dad lead her part of the way down the aisle, but her dad brought her to the altar.

Since both were an important part of her life, she decided to honor both her dads.

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If you accept the role and honor of being a bridesmaid, you should consider the obligation as well. Be ready to help the bride as much as you can, unless you are asked to perform reasonable duties that you simply cannot or are restricted from performing.

Case in point: I know a bride that wanted her bridesmaids not only to purchase their own attire, but to also pitch in for her gown.

She was so demanding and so unreasonable that all her chosen bridesmaids declined the honor. The groom chose an even number of groomsmen, so he could have them walk in and stand in pairs.

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It is customary for bridesmaid and groomsmen to sit with the wedding party at the reception.

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A “Hawaiian” themed party is very popular as are themes like

Hawaiian, Winter, Medieval, Cinderella – Fairy Tale, Beach, A Civil Wedding, a Military wedding, Fall, USA Independence (Red White and Blue) and more.

Why consider a theme wedding?

• If you know that you want a specific kind of wedding, but don’t know where to start, or how to incorporate all the details, add a theme into your wedding preparations.

• Concentrating your wedding planning on a specific theme makes planning easier.

• It is your day. You want it to be special, uniquely yours, a day that expresses you and creates lifetime memories.

• You most probably want your guests to experience an unforgettable wedding.

• Picking a theme that reflects something you both like, a celebration of your heritage(s), things that represent the time of year you chose for your wedding and – or a theme that is just lots of fun will leave all with a memorable wedding and the bride and groom with lots of mementos.

• Choosing a theme will inspire you to come up with creative ideas and a way to have your personal touch provide for a truly one-of-a-kind celebration.

• Incorporating your theme and focusing on it in as many aspects of the wedding as possible, such as the décor, attire, wedding accessories, food, cake, music etc. will make planning your wedding easy and enjoyable.

• Checking the Internet for supplies and wedding accessories in your chosen theme will provide you with creative ideas too.

• Having a theme wedding can save you money as well. Note: Choose your theme right after you have chosen your wedding date and location, before you start the actual planning. Choose your wedding colors at the same time. This way you can coordinate your wedding decorations, attire (if applicable for themes such as Western, International, historical etc), favors, flowers, cakes, menu and the other theme related items…

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You are 16 years old. You are a kid.

Kids even bridesmaids should not be expected to pay for such luxuries as a bachelorette party. (It is not a necessary event)

• Tell your mother that you cannot afford to host her party because you save your money for something specific.
• Anyway, if anyone should pickup the tab it should be the maid of honor.
• Another option is that all the ladies in the bridal party pitch in and collect enough to cover the cost and invite your mom to a bachelorette party.
• However, it is not mandatory to have a bachelorette party, at a venue.
• You have another option. Plan a “surprise party” at someone’s house and make it as inexpensive as possible. Have the hostess and invitees bring finger food, munchies hot and cold drinks and champagne and or wine. (Kind of like a pot luck).
• Have everyone think of wedding related games and have fun. (Check the internet for game ideas under – bridal shower games.)

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Wedding Planning, Who’s Wedding Is It Anyway?

I bet that you heard the following statements relating to weddings:

• Bridal Show – Where wedding professionals, vendors and service providers present their goods and services.
• Bridal Shower – Where brides are showered with gifts.
• Bridal Party – The title given family members and wedding Attendants.
• Bridal Chorus – Music traditionally played at the ceremony.
• Bridal Accessories – Accessories needed for the ceremony and reception.

One could think that the wedding is just for the bride.
So, where does the groom fit in?

In the past, tradition called for the bride and her family to plan, and be responsible for the wedding. The groom and his family were often, but not always, asked to participate in specific aspects such as: Flowers for the bride, the mothers, the groom and male attendants, Music and the Officiant.

My husband’s parents supplied the wedding cake.

Times, they are changing!

The traditional family of “Leave it to Beaver” where the man worked out of the house, supporting the family while the wife stayed home caring for the home and the children is reserved to too few families.

Today, both men and women work, earning a living and sharing responsibilities for the home and the children. It has become commonplace for men to shop, do housework and care for their children. In fact the term “House Husband” no longer sounds strange.

More and more brides and grooms live together prior to marriage.

The traditional responsibility of the bride’s parents to plan and fulfill their daughter’s dream wedding has shifted. Today, a majority of the working brides and grooms pay all, or a large percentage of the wedding costs.

Another change in the wedding scene is the large number of brides and grooms who have been married before. Their weddings may include children.

So, who’s wedding is it anyway?
The bride’s and the groom’s of course.

Quite frequently, it is recognized not only with engagement parties for both but also with wedding showers where both bride and groom are showered with gifts.

Though there are still some aspects specific to brides or grooms, they should plan their big day together. It is important that each of them bears the responsibility and commitment to their relationship as a soon to be a married couple, preparing for their wedding day. It is also an important judge as to how comfortable with, and yielding to each other the bride and groom are.

Today’s grooms are just as excited as their brides at the prospect of their upcoming marriage. They do not want to be guests at their own wedding. Rather, they want to be active participants in planning their wedding and honeymoon with their brides. They want to contribute financially, they want their opinions considered and they want to be involved in the decision making. Working as a team planning the wedding, gives the bride and groom a wonderful opportunity to dream together, share their thoughts, plan together and have the wedding of their dream. All the while, sharing the excitement, fun and occasional disagreements and resolutions, associated with wedding planning and later, with married life.

Working together brings the bride and groom closer together as they learn more and more about each other, and is a good beginning to later, jointly plan their life together.

We have seen the trend gaining momentum, as brides often ask A-wedding Day how to involve their grooms in planning their wedding. We have also noticed a dramatic increase in the number of men purchasing not only jewelry and gifts, but wedding accessories for the ceremony and reception.

You plan to share your life as a couple, you owe it to both of you to plan your wedding as a couple. You’ll enjoy a rewarding experience, the memories of which will last a lifetime.

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ANSWER:

This is totally up to you.

Hosting a wedding shower for the same couple is quite a gift by itself. It entails expenses, planning, preparing, inviting and actually having a wedding shower.

If the shower is not a secret, your gift can be an invitation to those attending the first shower to come to yours, generating double gifts for the couple.

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Planning a wedding budget and Preparing for Marriage? Taking a Financial Compatibility Quiz should be a priority before starting your life together. When people fall in love, they find it difficult to bring up the topic of financial habits and to talk about money. Sharing your perspectives about money will help you resolve financial issues before they strain your relationship or marriage. Do it as soon as possible, long before you get married, because unresolved money issues are a leading cause of many broken marriages. Don’t be a statistic and don’t let your marriage be one of them.

You discuss the relationship you developed with each other. It is crucial that you also discuss your relationships with money. After all, you are two individuals who were brought up in different families, with different backgrounds and possibly have different savings and spending habits. You need to come to a financial arrangement that will make both of you comfortable as a married couple. You plan to get married and share your lives. This requires that you develop strong communication skills and openness. As you go over the financial quiz you may realize that either or both of you need to work on some aspects of Financial Management.

Money is most often a heavy topic and must be discussed and relationships are about openness and compromise. So lighten it! We provide you with an easy way to get into the Money discussion. You can even make it a game. For example, my husband and I discuss finances and money matters while playing MONOPOLY. First, we each jot down each question we would like to discuss, on a card. We place the cards face down in the center of the board. Whenever one of us lands on either CHANCES or COMMUNITY CHEST, he or I pick up a question card. We stop the game to discuss the issue. We keep the game for only so long so that it does not become a burden. We usually stop the game after no more than 5 issues have been discussed. Once you reach an understanding of each other’s financial ways, and come up with a financial blue print for your married life, you may even decide to develop a written family financial plan, that includes goals, individual duties, responsibilities and financial policies for both of you to follow. This is why I suggest that you engage in a Money Matters dialog as early in your relationship as possible.

The following questions are merely guidelines.

So, get yourself a piece of paper or cards and a pen get together over a cup of coffee, some other treat or a game (card games work well too. The winner brings up the question he – she would like to discuss.) and answer the questions that apply to your situation. Though most can be answered by True or False, whenever possible follow with a discussion.

FINANCIAL QUIZ for COUPLES:

1. We talk about Money regularly. True False

2. We never talk about money because my spouse to be avoids discussing money matters with me. True False

3. It is rather difficult for me to talk about money because, my spouse to be interrupts me often or dismisses my points of view altogether. True False

4. Circumstances change. Therefore, we must make a commitment to discuss money matters regularly.

5. We need to decide how to divide up the money management tasks. True False

6. We need to discuss having children and how this will affect our finances. True False

7. We need to discuss where we should live and how this will affect our finances. True False

8. One of us owns a home. We need to decide whether to place the other as a joint tenancy owner. True False

9. In addition to the home, we need to discuss all of the assets such as an inheritance, that each of us acquired prior to our marriage. We need to decide whether the asset(s) should remain in his – her name alone or be joined. True False

10. My future spouse shared with me how much he – she earns and how much he – she contributes to his – her 401 (k) plan at work each pay period. True False

11. My future spouse shared with me how much debt, savings and investments he – she will bring into our marriage. True False

12. My future spouse shared with me that he – she has filed bankruptcy __________ many years ago.

13. I think that my future spouse is a saver. True False

14. I think that my future spouse is a spender. True False

15. I am aware of and comfortable with the money personality of my spouse to be. True False

16. I feel my future husband – wife manages his – her own money wisely. True False

17. We need to agree on the importance of and establishing a realistic household budget. True False

18. Once we are married, we need to agree, before either one of us makes a sizeable purchase of a few hundred dollars or more. True False

19. We need to agree on how much cash you need to live on and on what each of us is willing to give up in order to save money. True False

20. We need to agree of how much we can take out of our budget for entertainment, trips, vacations etc. True False

21. We need to discuss and agree to pull our resources together, before setting our wedding budget. True False

22. Between us, we own more than five credit cards. True False

23. We need to agree as to whether to have joint or separate checking and saving accounts. True False

24. As we plan our future, we need to take into consideration the impact that marriage will have on our taxes. True False

25. We need to discuss our short- and long-term financial goals with each other and eventually have the same financial dreams. True False

26. We also need to share our retirement dreams with each other. True False

27. It seems to me that my future spouse treats his – her money as his – her own private property. True False

28. We need to talk about how my future spouse would feel if I wanted to quit my job and start a business. True False

29. We need to talk about how comfortable each of us would feel if we had only one salary to support us. What if either my spouse or I wanted to quit his – her job, especially if it is to be a stay at home parent. True False

30. My future spouse and I have already developed a financial plan. True False

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Can attempting to surreptitiously attend your estranged daughter’s wedding against her explicitly-stated wishes and repeated warnings ever backfire and further strain the relationship?

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A wedding is beautiful indeed, Marriage and parenting are what you make of them.

Of course they may pose difficulties and all marriages and child rearing have their difficult moments. You cannot escape them!

The key to a happy rewarding marriage is to look at the entire picture.

My husband and I have been very happily very married for 55 years.

we went through some very tough times but what may weaken some marriages (Unemployment for example) strengthened our commitment, support, and understanding of and to each other.

As to parenting, here too it is part of the process to go through some rough spots.

However, there are many rewarding events too. Lifetime celebrations, fun family times, special achievements, successes and the accomplishments that make it all worth while.

When you look back as we have, now that we are great grandparents, we hardly remember the difficult times.

So, my suggestion is that you should work to resolve the difficult times but concentrate on the rewarding aspects of your “Married with Children” life.

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It is rather unfortunate but it is a very awkward feeling at a wedding rehearsal dinner when the people invited are not told in advance that they will have to pay for their own meals.

It happened to me. Usually the groom’s family picks up the tab for the rehearsal dinner. So, when I got the bill for my meal, I was shocked because it never happened to me before. I was not prepared to pay and therefore had no cash at the time. It would have been very embarrassing if not for my Credit Card. Credit Card to the rescue! What would we do without them.

NOTE:

If I had been told in advance that I would have to pay for my meal at a very expensive restaurant, I might add, I would have been able to decide whether to attend the dinner or excuse myself from going.

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I would. Does no FORMAL invitation was received means that you are not invited? Or were you invited orally or by email? I experienced a disappointment when I did not receive an invitation to our best friends son’s wedding. Our friends were angry because at first we did not reply and eventually did not attend the wedding. We learned almost a year later that our invitation was lost in the mail. When it was finally delivered, it all torn and crumpled. So, if you see a reason why you would not have been formally invited, accept it. Otherwise, ask if your invitation could have possibly been lost in the http://mail.In either case, if you love your niece, are happy for her, and wish her the very best, show it by giving her a wedding gift. Contributed by Nily Glaser of A-wedding Day Magazinehttps://www.a-weddingday.com

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Absolutely! a set of silverware is a wonderful wedding gift. No one can ever have too much silverware.

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No! You were asked to sing at your son’s wedding. It is an honor. but, if it makes me uncomfortable. Thank your son for the honor and explain to him that like many people you are not comfortable performing in front of an audience, even if the audience is made up of invited guests.

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You are not supposed to bring gifts. In other words it is not a requirement for attend a wedding or a rehearsal and you certainly do not need to bring a gift to each.

However, wedding invitees do gift the bride and groom and it is the right thing to do.

If you are invited to the rehearsal, it is not only appropriate, but SMART to give the gift at the rehearsal instead of at the wedding for 2 reasons:

It is easier to transport the gifts, as there are not as many gifts as are brought to the wedding itself.

I do not want to cause you worry but when my granddaughter had her wedding, she had a gift table that included a special box for money gifts. She found out after the wedding that the box mysteriously disappeared. You may suggest to the bride and groom to appoint a gift table observer.

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As a guest it is appropriate to wear a gold and cream qipao to a wedding. However, as a bridesmaid this depends on the bride and her plan for her bridesmaids’ attire. Since we are talking about her wedding, the bride herself, will give you the best and most honest answer. Please join the Planning a Wedding Day Space Get your FREE Printable Wedding Planner https://www.a-weddingday.com/weddng-planner-table-of-contents/

I am a grandma whose granddaughter was just married. I would have been devastated if I were not invited to her wedding. In fact I flew from Texas to NY to attend the happiest day of her life.

The questions I have are: Who put together the wedding and the guest list?

Was your grandchild involved in the decision? did s/he approve of you not being invited?

Did by some chance (it happened to me) they mailed you an invitation that got lost in the mail?

Check to find the answers.

Well, as a grandma myself, I WILL most certainly give a gift. If for no other reason, because I am sure that you want to wish him/her the very best.